“i have finally seen the light”

i am grateful that i am married
not just married—married with liz
not just married with liz—consciously joining with such a being as she is

for it breaks me
and bakes me
and as the heat rises… it refines me

and i know i am closer to being the person i want to be
because that which i am not has turned to ashes and fallen away

and, yes, sometimes it hurts
but what is a little pain…
in the light of the eternal?